When a friend of mine completed a grueling two-year graduate program, she celebrated her subsequent promotion and first ever salary negotiation by buying herself a designer bag. When she brought it to work, proud as ever, the first comment she received was: “Well look at that, we are definitely paying you too much“. Although the comment was (I assume) meant as a joke, all her fears related to the salary negotiation immediately reappeared.
In the book “That’s What She Said”, Joanne Lipman explains how men are four times more likely than women to ask for a raise – and when women do ask, we typically request 30 percent less than men do. Luckily, she says, this gap appears to be closing somewhat among younger women, such as my friend. Still, women are far from parity when it comes to negotiating pay.
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Thus, the next time you see a young business woman carrying a designer bag, I urge you to either congratulate her on negotiating a good salary for herself, or acknowledge her conscious financial choices that has allowed her to save up for it (that is what I call priorities!).
Or, you know, maybe she received the bag as a present from her generous parents… I guess most of us rarely know the exact financial situation of our colleagues (or friends, even). Thus, don’t judge a book by the expensive watch or designer bag on it’s arm!
Warning: The title of this post is wildly misleading…!
I couldn’t help but laugh when Arianna Huffington mentioned how everyone who wants to become successful needs to sleep their way to the top on the Ellen DeGenerous Show. I have recently started listening to Arianna Huffington’s Thrive Global podcast, and it quickly became obvious to me that she is a bit of a sleep aficionado!
In general, I do not have any problems sleeping (except on Sundays, of course, where I like to sleep in in AND treat myself to a long nap…). However, having listened to the Thrive Global podcast, I realized that I need to add some steps to my – barely existing – evening routine, to improve the quality of my sleep. Thus, enter my new Evening Bliss routine, based on Arianna Huffington’s advice:
- No more phone activity 30-60 min. before sleep. Ideally it should be charged outside the bedroom, so you don’t get tempted to use it before you sleep, ehrm…
- Scented candle and calming music in the bathroom
- Wash off the day with a warm and aromatic shower or bath. I remove my make up in the shower, to make it last longer.
- Put on dedicated sleep wear (i.e. not lounge or sports wear, as I used to)
- Read a physical book (not on Kindle etc.)
I occasionally also do a gratitude exercise before I fall asleep, which is found to work as joy trigger, proven to reduce stress and improve sleep quality.
I took small steps to get into this routine. First, I put out a small notepad on my nightstand for the gratitude exercise. Then, I separate my sleeping wear from my lounge wear. It turned out I basically did not have any dedicated sleepwear, which I saw as an excellent excuse to shop a bit! While I was out shopping, I also got myself a scented candle and a calming shower gel. And then I was good to go.
This new routine of mine is so comfortable and was so natural to get into this summer. However, I must admit that I worry whether I will be able to maintain it when going back to work. Thus, my aim going forward is to do my routine 3 times a week. Anything above 3 is just a bonus.
Hope this inspires you to evaluate and, if necessary, improve your evening routine as well!
Hello, and welcome back. I hope you have had a wonderful summer! My summer has been great and sunny, and involved a lot of inspiration and thinking about the future of the #Busbeesblog. Now, I am fully recharged and ready to get back into my daily routines (i.e. involuntarily stop eating excessive amounts of chocolate and fast food every day).
The Alchemist is one of my favourite books, and the quote above has been imprinted on my mind since I read it. This quote motivates me to pursue and engage in good intentions, every day. I have personally witnessed how my thoughts eventually materialize into actions, and how – over time – these actions become habits. According to Will Durant, “you are what you repeatedly do“. By extension, you become what you repeatedly do. In that sense, our minds have significant power in taking us to our future. That is, the future we visualize and pursue for ourselves.
“When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.” The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
My aim for this fall is to work on implementing new good habits, to achieve my formally (aka scribbled down on a napkin..) formulated goals, in the hopes that preparation meeting opportunity will lead to great achievements. For instance, I have thought about how to optimize my Hour of Powers, which books to read, and established a personal budget. I have also been working on a new evening routine, which you can read more about tomorrow.
Have you thought about your goals for the fall semester? And how to achieve them? If not, check out Mind Tools for inspiration on how to set and reach SMART goals. Happy reading!