There is nothing more elegant than a bow tie, if you ask me. The simplicity, yet sophistication, is simply unbeatable. And although I understand many women may find it transgressive to pull off, you can’t argue with the fact that these ladies look both feminine and exceptional at the same time.
Brene Brown introduced me to this quote (unfortunately not personally). To me, it serves as a personal reminder and motivation to put myself out there – enter the arena. To pursue my true passions, even if critics (yes, I’m talking to you, ruminating inner voice) tell me otherwise.
In more concrete terms, this quote has contributed to building the confidence necessary for me to start this blog, which I have dreamt on for so long.
I hope it inspires you, as it has inspired me.
I’ll tell you a secret; I have been brewing on this first blog post for more than two years. I have imagined it being clever beyond words and hugely inspiring, securing instant followers hungry for more. If it isn’t perfect, it’s not worth launching the blog, I always thought.
This led to an academic journey for knowledge worth sharing, involving numerous TED Talks, scholarly books, networking events, and a full-time trainee position on the side. And so, here I finally am, two years later and ready to launch the blog.
Unfortunately I must disappoint you. This will not be the grand, first blog post that I imagined. You see, my academic journey turned into a personal one instead, which helped me realize my obsession with – and consequent hindrance of – the concept of perfectionism. Because along the way, I discovered how “Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is a defensive move. It’s the belief that if we do things perfectly and look perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around, thinking it will protect us, when in fact it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from being seen” (Brene Brown: Daring Greatly, page 128).
This quote changed my life. And, by extension, it also changed my ambitions for this blog, as it will most definitely not be perfection (whatever that means). It might not even be good enough. But at least it is finally here, and all I am hoping for is for it to get better along the way.
I guess immediate disappointment is not the best way to start a blog or build an image. However, it does take some of the pressure off. And who knows, maybe the grand blog posts will appear further down the line… I hope you will come back and see for yourself!