“Most people, especially highly gifted people, do not really know where they belong until they are well past their mid-twenties.” – in Managing Oneself, by Peter F. Drucker
Were you as relieved as me, when you read the above quote by “the founder of modern management” Peter Drucker? Not only does he legitimize career uncertainty, he even acknowledges that it can be a sign of brightness. Oh, happy day!
It’s not exactly like I don’t know what I want to do in life. It’s just that I sometimes question whether I am in the right place to do “it”… Oh, and whether I want to keep doing “it” for the rest of my life… Although life is long, it is also very short! Especially with the decades of education we have to go through nowadays. Good thing modern medicine seems to be prolonging our lives with an equal amount of years, I guess.
This uncertainty is one of the many reasons that I am so grateful for the coaches in my life. As previously mentioned, my coaches help me confront and discuss questions about my career, motivations, values, etc., which are crucial aspects when defining my desired future.
At the moment, my coach and I are working on defining my strengths, to subsequently utilize them to achieve my goals. As Peter Drucker states: “a person can perform only from strength. One cannot build performance on weaknesses…”
In his article “Managing Oneself”, he further raises some of the questions, I am discussing with my coach:
- Am I a reader or a listener?
- How do I learn?
- Do I work well with people, or am I a loner?
- How do I produce results, as a decision maker or as an advisor?
- Do I perform well under stress, or do I need a structured and predictable environment?
- Do I work best in a big organization or a small one?
- What are my values?
Come on, now, have a go at the above questions yourself! And if you are interested in learning more about Managing Oneself, read Peter Drucker’s article 🙂
The words “coaching” and “mentoring” are often treated as if they’re interchangeable. However, they’re not. One of the biggest differences is that mentors are relationship oriented, representing a safe space to raise and discuss issues. Coaches, on the other hand, help tackle a specific issue, such as managing more effectively or thinking more strategically.
In the beginning of my career, I was constantly searching for a mentor. Someone who could teach me how to navigate the organizational environment. However, I have come to realize that while a mentor may provide valuable insights to a specific situation at work, they do not help me understand myself better.
Through coaching, on the other hand, I have been presented with valuable tools and confronted with thought-provoking questions, which have matured my mind and understanding of myself greatly. If I may say so myself, at least!
I plan to share some of these tools on this blog – So stay tuned!
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I always used to think that I would have been a much more motivated student, if I had a nice place to study. In reality, I did the majority of studying in my bed, which often resulted in a lot of Netflix and really long power naps (OK, so technically I guess they were not power naps, just really long naps…).
Now I know that a beautifully furnished study place probably wouldn’t have made much of a difference. The problem was not my study surroundings, as much as the topic of my studies, which unfortunately did not interest me enough to spend time on them. Once this realisation occurred to me, I got very depressed. I felt like I had wasted a lot of good years, and maybe even missed the possibility to fulfill my true passion and potential.
It took me a long time and a lot of personal development to understand that this kind of thinking is not healthy nor useful. Instead, I now try to focus on all the positive things that wouldn’t have happened if I did not get my degree. For instance, if I did not get my degree, I would never have:
- Gotten my dream job
- Met my boyfriend
- Spent semesters abroad
- Had plenty of good times with a lot of great people
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“Every cloud has a silver lining.” Sometimes you just have to say (or write) your thinking out loud to realize it.